Working environment favors marital escapades and business trips are often a reason to occasionally cheat on the partner.
Statistical researchs indicate that approximately 60% of all marital infidelity finds fertile ground and occurs in the workplace, for both women and men.
In my experience as a private investigator and owner of the Octopus detective agency, which has been dealing with family protection and investigations into marital infidelity since 1980, two out of three unfaithful partners cultivate their extramarital affairs in the workplace.
Even in the workplace, as outside, there are three kind of adulterous lovers:
– Those who establish a long and lasting relationship with just one person, colleague, superior or subordinate. This is, in theory, the easiest situation to unravel, because the two lovers, even if with less striking affectionate outbursts, tend to hang out every day: breakfast, lunch, possibly an aperitif and sometimes dinner. Furthermore, they take advantage of work permits, unmentioned in the family, for periodic meetings outside of work.
– Those who consider the workplace a hunting ground for continuous sexual escapades. These are serial and compulsive cheaters who, even when they try to conceal their extramarital infidelity, are quite easy to catch red-handed. Moreover, even if they only have sex affairs, it is inevitable that they will leave behind a trail of broken hearts useful to the private investigator.
A client of my first detective agency Octopus in Treviglio hired me to watch her husband after work, because he came home later and later. We were unlucky because that very evening our target broke up with his lover-colleague.
In bad luck, however, there was a stroke of luck: the two organized their last meeting sitting in a bar near the company. Taking a seat near to them, we understood that he was the one who left her because she had put too much pressure on him to get a divorce. He gave her a cynical speech about how he wasn’t stupid enough to be set up and made a list of other colleagues with whom he had had more or less short relationships, all of which ended because he would never have left his wife anyway.
My female private detective colleague and I took note of all the names of the ex-lovers mentioned by the man and we identified them. Later, she, able of crying on command, contacted them, presenting herself as a young woman seduced and abandoned by our suspect, in search of help.Some of them didn’t want to talk, but others were eager to tell all the misdeeds of the cheater, who often, to follow his transgressive passion, committed misconduct on the job by firing from scratch.
For our client it was a smooth separation.
– Those who take advantage of work commitments to have occasional liaisons or spend time with sex workers. These are more difficult to find out, because their transgressions are very limited in space and time and they leave few evidence other than condoms and unjustified expenses; these cheaters take advantage of business trips to sneak into their colleague’s hotel room late at night or to ask the hotel doorman to provide them with a “blanket” or a toy-boy for a few hours.While surveilling an adulteress who was traveling abroad with her superior-lover, the private detectives of my Octopus detective agency set off the hotel’s fire alarm to video-record the two rushing half-naked out of the same room

I don’t want to be ominous or break the serenity of solid couples, but if you already have some suspicions, I’ll explain you how to investigate further to decide whether it’s worth using a private detective.
How to understand if your partner is cheating on you at work
The symptoms of betrayal are always the same, whether it is a flirtation born at work or outside of it:
– Sudden morbid attachment to his/her own smartphone.
– Increase in messages and phone calls at odd hours.
– Suspicious changes the working hours in the incoming, outgoing and lunch breaks.
– Greater care in clothing and personal hygiene.
– Distracted attitude and aggression in the family or, on the contrary, continuous and unmotivated attention and gifts to the spouse and children.
Getting proof that your partner betrays you at work is not easy, especially if he has his own office or he owns the company where he works or works in an environment where he can carve out, undisturbed, moments and spaces for his clandestine meetings.
Therefore, first of all, you must think about the opportunities that the suspected cheater has during his/her working day, not excluding even the most imaginative or abstruse hypotheses based on how you know your partner.
Recently a client contacted my detective agency Octopus in Cassano d’Adda for a case of infidelity. During the meeting to organize the surveillance, she categorically ruled out that her husband, obsessed with hygiene, could have copulated outside of a bed with freshly washed sheets. After studying his routine, my private detective collaborators caught him copulating with a colleague in a rather dirty company warehouse. Furthermore, the man sometimes went to the colleague’s house in the absence of her husband, because he was excited by the sheets impregnated with the smell of the two spouses.
How to deal with a suspected betrayal at work.
Let’s see in detail what to do to snoop into the daily work routine of the partner suspected of marital tradition:
1) Check cars, pockets and bags or purses for receipts, condoms and other clues.
2) If you can, keep an eye on credit card payments and paychecks for discrepancies on overtime or days off.
3) If your partner travels to work by car, check the kilometers. Or check for any validations of public transport passes.
4) If possible, find plausible excuses to call your partner more often when he is at work and do it through the company’s switchboard, not on his mobile phone. Call especially on days when you are most suspicious of your partner due to his/her strange behavior or excessive personal care and dressing before going to work.
5) Surprisingly offer to pick up your partner at the end of work or accompany him/her to the start of work. If he/she nervously rejects the offer, stand the gaff and have him monitored by the Octopus Investigations agency.
The private investigator‘s intervention consists first of all in verifying three typical moments of extramarital relationships in the workplace: breakfast before starting the “shift”, the lunch break and the exit from work.
If the car owner has very flexible schedules or a job that forces him/her to constantly travel off-site, or can take work permits without partner’s knowledge, the investigative agency applies a satellite tracker on the car (the use of which in Italy is legal and provided by law) to have greater control and reduce costs.
When your partner is on a work trip the same five tips listed above apply, with the only variation that you must call him/her through the switchboard of the hotel where he/she said to stay, rather than on his mobile phone. And you have to study his/her reaction when you propose to accompany him/her and pick him/her up at the airport or station, etc.
A man who suspected an extramarital affair between his wife and a colleague of hers, with whom the woman often traveled by train to Rome for work, contacted my Octopus detective agency in Milan. I suggested to the Client the trick of offering to drive her; his wife’s reaction was very suspicious. The Client didn’t have much money to spend and we decided to follow his wife only to the station and suspend the control at her departure, sure that the two would indulge in some effusions before getting into the carriage. Nothing happened, perhaps due to the presence of another female colleague, who also left with the two; however, my collaborators assigned to the case had the feeling that the lover of their observed was the female colleague and not the man.
We decided to wait for them on their return too. The three got off the train and separated with impeccably professional behavior. My private detective collaborators updated me while awaiting orders and I ordered them to follow the suspect to her home. Instead of returning directly home, the woman made a diversion and met the female colleague with whom she had just been on a work trip. My detectives were right: the lover was the woman.
