Generational turnover has always been conflictual and sometimes deflagrating, squeezed between the inability of the elderly to let go and the youthful impetuosity to conquer the world. However, it is precisely this generational conflict that makes our young people adults, since, in my experience as a family private detective, most of the problematic young people whom I have tailed, monitored and tracked to prevent their self-destructive behaviour, had not resolved or, indeed, had never faced the obligatory adolescent conflict with their parents.
This is also the case in generational changes within family businesses, where the children, who are crushed by the personality of the founding relative/partner, are more likely to drive the family business to bankruptcy, as I often witness during investigations into inheritance and succession disputes at my Octopus detective agency.
However, not all self-destructive behaviour is juvenile; very often this resistance to hand over the helm of command reduces important companies to being led by old captains suffering from senile dementia, if not worse. Once upon a time these behaviours were purely masculine, but today there is no shortage of cases of die-hard old matriarchs who expose themselves to the risk of external manipulation, seeing the imminent end in the affirmation of their own offspring. And the new generation contacts my Octopus detective agency to anticipate the criminal intentions of gold-diggers or criminals of all kinds.
Generational conflict is well represented in boxing, when old champions, instead of retiring with dignity, challenge young champions. Regardless of whether they do it only for the money or the aspiration to immortality, their last fight is a profound life lesson.
Almost always they are painful fights and painful lessons, although the recent encounter between Iron Mike and Jake Paul was an exception. In this last match, the young challenging boxer was able to balance strength and respect towards the old lion to to be ousted and Mike Tyson gave way with dignity and wisdom.
Challenges between old and young box champions are life lessons, which I often witness, as a family private investigator and owner of the Octopus Detective Agency, even in investigations pertaining to family and corporate generational turnover.
The destructive and self-destructive behaviour of young people.
Just in these days of Iron Mike’s latest challenge, a series of senseless stabbings and shootings with despicable motives among young men or even teenagers and preteens leave one speechless.
Even though I have been working as a private criminal investigator for 44 years and have often handled with rather gory cases with my Octopus detective agency in Cassano d’Adda, I was surprised by such stupid violence. However, it cannot be said that crime reporting is a complete photocopy of our younger generations.
To those who indulge in simplistic considerations about ” burnt-out youth”, I am wont to remind them that this is an expression dating back to the 1950s and regularly passed down from generation to generation by forgetful elders about their youthful escapades.
In fact, it happens very often that when parents worried about the self-destructive behaviour of one of their children contact my detective agency Octopus, they are accompanied by other perfectly responsible young family members who are equally worried about their brother or cousin who is addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling and bad company.
Advice from the private detective of the Octopus Investigation Agency
on how to curb self-destructive behaviour in children.
As boxing, as well as any other sport, teaches us, physical activity, combined with respect for rules and a sense of fair play, saves many young people from perdition.
The adult’s role in their offspring’s sports and school activities should be one of simple dispassionate assistance and encouragement; there is nothing worse than stressing their children into achieving ambitious results in sports or any other field, not for themselves, but to compensate for the adults’ boastfulness and frustrations.
In the past, the parents of a teenage runaway boy contacted my Octopus detective agency in Milan to track him down. Client interviews and preliminary information made me immediately suspect suicide: although the missing boy was a young man without shadows, the pressures and expectations that the two unfortunate parents placed on their eldest son’s career future were palpable. In fact, they found him having committed suicide in a countryside near home.
While the adult should see himself as a mere driver who takes his child to sports or any other educational activity, he should not be afraid to exercise some healthy matriarchy or patriarchy to effectively supervise his offspring.
Many parents belatedly contact my Octopus detective agency to supervise their children and to remove them from self-destructive behaviour, because they have too much respect for the privacy of their underage offspring, misinterpreting the consideration due to their children and treating them as responsible adults.
A couple approached my first detective agency Octopus in Treviglio to monitor their daughter suspected of being a drug addict.
I asked the two parents if they had already tried to search her room and personal belongings, and they were scandalised by my suggestion, considering it too invasive and disrespectful. I convinced them to let me do it while the young girl was in school, and within half an hour I discovered that their daughter was a heroin addict.
The recovery of dissipated and straying young lives rests on strict discipline. Most of the young stragglers that I (as a private investigator) supervise, track down, bring home, have not had parents who were strict enough and, above all, present. Young people suffer indifference and are fortified by interaction with their parents, regardless of whether this interaction is to scold, punish, praise, or reward them.
After opening my second Octopus detective agency in Milan, I had a Client whose drug-addicted son had run away from home and whom I found in Spain. The parents, instead of coming in person to get him back, sent their family lawyer. On the return trip, the lawyer and I joked among ourselves that the teenager seemed to have adopted us as his parents. In fact, the boy had never spent so much time with two adults who were sufficiently interested in him and his well-being.
In my experience as a family private investigator, the presence of parents
and discipline, though resisted by the children, makes them grow.
In my experience as a family private investigator, the presence of parents and discipline, though resisted by the children, makes them grow.
Self-destructive behaviours are also of parents.
Private investigator Octopus’s experiences on the
generational transitions in family businesses.
The Mike Tyson and Jake Paul challenge had a happy ending because Iron Mike understood when it was time to accept Jake Paul’s proposal to suspend the fight, effectively handing him the victory, and because in Jake’s proposal there was great respect for Tyson’s age and history.
I happen to witness “challenges” that end much worse than the Jake vs. Tyson one, when my detective agency Octopus is called in to investigate succession disputes and generational handovers in family businesses; the more the elderly tycoon does not want to relinquish the helm at the expense of his own offspring and the latter does not respect the history he is receiving, the more ruinous the corporate-generational transition is.
When my detective agency Octopus is commissioned to carry out asset and financial investigations in this area, the solution to the crisis does not depends on the information my private investigators are able to find but on the wise use my Clients will make of it.
